The Toxic of Trust Issues
Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV
Bible Versions - New International Version
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Do you trust me? Can I trust you? Can I trust them? Can I trust it? Can I trust myself? These are the million dollar questions some, if not a huge majority in our society struggle with. I surely myself have landed in the mouse trap glue and was stuck in my inability to successfully answer these questions regarding trust honestly without long deliberation, fear, or total evasion altogether. This is the number one killer of relationships of all forms, financial responsibility, application of talent and skills (oh yes including this), and our abilities to move into the next chapters of our lives. We are poised and attracted to these assumptions and comforting lies that cause us to do the exact opposite of moving forward in the power of faith and healthy hope. We would rather pretend than be upfront about our true fears and lack of understanding than to defeat the demons that whisper in our ears telling us to avoid accepting a helping and counseling hand to guide us in uncovering the truths and logic. Our emotions can be both our friend and worst enemy in the matter of walking across the bridges of trust.
Someone started the rumor that trust had to be built and I so often questioned if this applied across the board when we included ourselves and the higher intelligence and energy of this life and universe. I never dare to ask anybody the question, but I use to make the mistake in my prayers and devotional time by having tons of doubts and trust of what I was doing. Whenever I came out of my silent time I was expecting to have more peace and assurance within myself and about my life, but sadly I was only placing a temporary band-aide over my fears and doubts. This is the problem I faced and I never arrived at the full scope of what I was praying for to manifest itself into my life the way I wanted it to. I encountered struggle, suffering, and unusual turmoil as if I had personally invited it into my life. I later discovered that when I noticed the perfection of nature and things working as it should without fear and skeptical energy, I immediately turned on the light-bulb in my head and yelled “I be Damn” out loud. Nothing but the human species on this earth, operates in an abnormal function with a sense of distrust. Every other species can properly mate and reproduce and flourish as it should without the “extra” from emotional and falsely created imagination of the worst possible outcomes. The mother earth continues to turn constantly on its axis and never does it doubt spinning out into orbit lost and potentially crashing into another planet.
We must train our mind and bring our emotions into submission about moving forward off the points in moments where we originally start. Relationships will improve greatly once we learn to allow more of the positive and great results of love to move into the spaces where we make decisions and choices regarding the people we relate to. Ideas and projects will accelerate more quickly into blasting off like never before shall we remove the fear and hesitation we make when holding back on the next steps, theories, and calculations in our head. Our abilities to live in a more harmonious matter without worry and anxiety will greatly improve if we just offer ourselves up to trust the most advanced and intelligent source of nature to properly conduct and distribute the forces that work in our favor always to protect and inspire us. Careers, more graduates, and successful parenting will finally triumph into the winner’s historical hall of fame because the word we know as “trust”, that we place an outrageous and unattainable value on will lose its fictitious references. The next big question is how do we begin to do the very thing we was told not to do so by someone or ourselves through personal experience or falsely imagined personal experience? Here is a small blueprint I will offer below:
· Practice smiling in the mirror for 10 minutes with no one present while studying yourself and noticing how it feels. Smiling is the most common indicator of trust, if you can learn to being accustomed to your own smile and noticing no hidden motives behind your smile, you will naturally begin to look for smiles in others and unfold the tables of trust in your head.
· Notice the things and people in your life that you love or that you receive love and joy from. Express this outwardly out loud silently to yourself or on a sheet of paper. Practice this act for 14 days. The things or people you love unconditionally and that express it back to you holds the understanding of why you trust without even saying it. Relate this to the rest of the world freely. It is love that will set you free.
· Spiritual and Invisible Protection. Ask yourself before sleep the following questions. Will I die before I wake? What will happen if I die before I wake? Where will I go if I die before I wake? How do I want to feel if I survive the night and awaken again? These questions are scary and tough. Most of us just willing go to sleep without even thinking twice about the possibility of not surviving through the night. Why is this? We are so routine that we have gained comfort and assurance subconsciously about the peace of being able to sleep without worry. Don’t worry now. But allow this same comfort and trust to carry over into your everyday life when you are expected to be woke and living in the body and identity you are in. Spiritual protection is surrounded around you and it would be who of you to get more conscious of it so you are least worry of the “dangers” this world posed on your small life.
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By Marcus Hart